Biography

As someone who supports others with their growth or healing, it is important for me to note that my journey isn’t complete. I am still learning, still making mistakes, still seeking support and repairing when I need to. As my capacity and trust in myself and others grows, my mistakes look and feel different and life feels more steady, grounded, supported and much less threatening. I now have choice, options and flexibility in situations that stretch or challenge me. I still get activated, overwhelmed or triggered at times BUT I feel more confident in working through difficulty (in the moment or afterwards) on my own or with the support of others when needed.

Sometimes we are responding in unhelpful or hurtful ways because of things that happened to us in the past. And sometimes it’s because we are stuck in a rut and need help to choose differently. Sometimes we are responding the way we are simply because we were never taught how to navigate the situation at hand! This is super common actually. And I speak to these as missing childhood experiences. If someone taught you how to navigate, be with and process anger, fear, overwhelm, tricky or complex situations or sadness in a healthy or effective way you would do that! So, there is no shame in having not been taught this and having to learn this in your 30s, 40s, or 50s. Trust me when I tell you that many of us are learning these skills in adulthood and often while we are raising children of our own, navigating relationship challenges and at times feeling completely out of our depth.